WHAT'S TROUBLING YOU!!

[Originally written by me on Thursday 5 October 2006]

Work, Health & Family. I think most people are concerned about these 3 things only. If there is some deficiency in any one of these then it's a trouble for us. Let me try to write a few words on each one of these and I hope you'll also try to read what is written here J

WORK

Work is related with money, we work because we get money by working. But is it the only reason for working? Here I'll assume all economic and non-economic, personal and non-personal activities as work. I work because I get money by working, but I work because I like work also. Now I am writing this article and I am not going to get any money by writing this, but still I am writing, because I like it. Development and maturity of intellect, skills, knowledge & wisdom is dependent on work. I may not be a good worker but my deficiencies at work shall teach me many things. Doing is learning. What work we do, why we do, how we do, why I am not doing some better work. May be the president is doing my job and I can be more worthy than him if I can get his office. But who can tell that why I am not doing my presidential job and what that person is doing in my office!! There are many explanations to this.

            Work can be related with general acts & conducts of our life. Our works are resultant of our personality & opportunity, which in turn are resultant of our physical & mental acts. Company changes a man; just put a spoiled unsatisfied worker in 10 other workers and he shall get on nerves of management. We keep company with others; we also keep company with ourselves as well. I have my own thoughts, ideas, imagination to company with. Every person has a specific personal nature and his development depends on it. Apart from economic activities, charity efforts, efforts to appease others or ourselves, wise or unwise acts, follies of not so ripe age, all can be classified as work. Every step takes us somewhere, doing can become undoing and undone things can also be thanked for. A million thanks for one bomb not thrown over innocent people and thanks for a bullet which missed killing an innocent person, thanks for diverting the path of events which were clearly leading to strife. These all works deserve not to be done. On individual level also many works are best if left undone. Nobody works for harming his own interests, everybody works for some benefit. Businesses, industries can fail, people can get desperate because of their failed efforts, but the motive and wish to do is always positive. We can consider negative points but we always work for positive ones. Works are done for benefit or pleasure. Pleasure can take doing or undoing to the greatest height. A man lost in his dream world was feeling great. Another man came running and told him, "Hey Pal! There is a fire in the village." "Doesn't concern me", Dreamy man said. "Your house is also in that village" He was told. "Doesn't concern you" Dreamy man said and turned his back. Whenever we do something we make it sure to get the maximum possible output from that, working our way up or down. We may be either working towards a higher goal, liberating ourselves or getting addicted to some unwise practices, pushing ourselves down.

            Work may be binding or liberating, it depends on kind of work we select and our way of doing that work. There are details and theories of work, its cause, effect. The crux of all theories is ‘Are you satisfied with your work?' Satisfaction element related with work takes into account it's all aspects - economic, personal, social, psychological and others. The simplest way of knowing how you like your work is ‘Do you take pride in showing your work or you need help to get rid of it.'

HEALTH

‘Mirror Mirror on the wall, who is the fittest of all' If it's the survival of fittest then surely we should be fit enough to survive. Health is our next concern. If somebody lacks health then it can be the first concern also. Mostly it is like this -‘we have it we don't care, we don't have it we are concerned.' Ill body or mind or both can give trouble, both have effect on each other. Somebody may get unwell for some time and by unduly stressing on its causes and effects can prolong that period. Low emotional and disturbing states can also cause the body to be unwell. Body and mind when effect each other negatively can form a vicious circle requiring lots of efforts and time to break out of it. What can make people unwell :

1.                  Infection

2.                  Non-nutritious or adulterated food

3.                  Lack of body activities

4.                  Emotional breakdowns

5.                  Use of harmful substances including intoxicants and drugs

6.                  Hereditary reasons

7.                  Exertion

8.                  Accidents  

FAMILY

Here in India we have traditional families. Joint family system is still in vogue. Couples marry and stay together for whole life. While meeting and interacting with people of other cultures I found that family and social culture is different elsewhere. Asia is still traditional with little changes. There are maximum changes in western part of the world. Many people want to have good stable family but can't find compatible spouse. Many prefer to stay single or stay in a without-marriage relation. Once a chat friend asked me about families in India. I told that we still have traditional family values. ‘what if spouses don't have compatibility?' I told they still stay together, fighting each other, enjoying each other and don't separate till one of them dies!!!, ahhaha. Is it good or bad? It depends. Sometimes it is better to separate than living through hell and sometimes the separation decisions are un-thoughtful. One thing is sure ; broken families don't have a healthy effect on either spouse or kids. If union was disturbing separation also disturbs. How nice it shall be if all can find a soul mate with whom they can happily stay together all life. This wish is natural for every person. Even if somebody has a series of relations that person shall also crave for a stable relation in the end.

What can disturb families or relations :

1.                  Disliking for certain things in partner.

2.                  Wish to control while the partner oppose it.

3.                  High aspirations and a feeling that they can't be achieved while living together.

4.                  A strong wish with or without any cause to walk out of relationship.

5.                  Lack of communication.

Work, health and family- our life revolves around this trio. I think about work, don't think about money. For me money has less value than work. Why? Do I already have enough money and I am now able to compare mine with Bill Gates!!! Nah. Sometimes I don't have even enough. But how much one requires? The basic needs are being provided for, wish for more is a race and we run that all life. Health is ok. I feel that I can walk in the sky, that's the benefit when you are ultra light with no problem, ahaha. Family, well I live with mother and brother and no spouse to separate from J still haven't found a matching soul. Anybody want to test nerves!!!